It is important that everyone have some background knowledge, its also important to know when to seek help if you need it. This section is written by professionals in Sex Addiction it will contain clinical terms as well as great modern knowledge in the field.
Addicts have personality traits that can lure them into addiction, multiple addictions in many cases. With sex addiction we have identified many Addiction Interactions that feed off of each other, creating a cycle of addiction making it harder to stop. These are some of the Addiction Interactions, there are more added every year.
Did you know that money and work issues are the most commonly cited causes for relationship disagreements that often lead to divorce or separation?*
Money and work issues (also referred to as financial disorders) are unhealthy beliefs and behaviors involving money and work that negatively impact ones financial, emotional, spiritual and relational well-being. These behaviors are often persistent and longstanding patterns that overtime become more self-destructive. These behaviors can include:
Whether you struggle with a fear of “not having enough” or “not being good enough” there is help! IITAP therapists are provided specific training to help you uncover hidden and self-destructive behaviors. Books such as, For Love and Money: Exploring Sexual & Financial Betrayal in Relationships looks at the overlay of self-worth, sexual and financial infidelity and offers help to those who need guidance and direction! Contributed by: Debra Kaplan, LPC, CMAT & CSAT Supervisor
* 2012 TODAY/Self Magazine.com survey of 23,000 participants
Addiction Interaction: Drug/Alcohol Dependency Can you relate to any of these situations?
If your answer is yes, then you may have what has become known as an Addiction Interaction. Some people get discouraged when they work hard to resolve one addiction only to find out that they may have to start over treating another. The concept of addiction interaction conceptualizes both substance and behavioral addictions into one cluster or disease, where each “addiction” works to substitute, mask, mediate, or fuse with another. Any behavior that is pleasurable, reward-driven, or expected to provide pleasure is potentially addictive (sex, food, gambling, work, or even relationships).
The good news is that there are specific treatment interventions that can be employed to help you navigate through whatever form of addiction interaction that is continuing to make your life unmanageable. Through participation in group, individual, and/or family sessions, you can learn how to identify specific problematic behaviors that you wish to abstain from one day at a time; learn to communicate more effectively with your family and significant others; and integrate principles of a healthy sexual relationship. Through the utilization of a task-oriented approach, 12-Step support, and comprehensive assessments, you can be on your way to a happy and more fulfilling sexual lifestyle that is also free of drugs and alcohol. Contributed by Rick Snyderman, M.Ed., LPC, CADC, CSAT, NCC
To cope with trauma, some people get stuck in unhealthy and addictive behaviors, to the extent that they lose awareness of themselves. Others may do just the opposite and begin focusing on the self and holding their own bodies in contempt. This is when eating disorders and body image issues surface or resurface.
Dieting, counting calories, body checking and excessive exercise provide a false sense of security. Bypassing hunger then creates an internal feeling of deprivation and lack of safety. Needs and wants become unacceptable and self-soothing cannot be achieved. Bingeing and compulsive overeating can become a defense to avoid feelings of inner
This is a time when self-kindness is most important. I work with partners to create necessary strategies to heal from the trauma of betrayal and discovery of sex addiction. I use a psychobiological approach to treating relational trauma. As a CSAT and CSAT Supervisor, I integrate many tasks and tools to address addiction interaction, shame
resilience, emotional dysregulation, trauma resolution, cultivating self-kindness, rebuilding trust and intimacy, managing stress, interpersonal effectiveness and instilling hope and happiness.
Written by: Stacy Korfist, LMFT, CSAT-S, CEDS-S
When looking at people who suffer from problematic Internet use, it’s been found that they usually use many different aspects of the Internet and, often, are also using drugs and alcohol to enhance the high or relief they seek from their online activities. For many of them, their love of digital media began with early hand-held video games, and then progressed to online multiplayer games. However, once they were spending time online, they were captivated by all sorts of online content. For boys, porn use begins, on average, by age 10; for girls (who tend to be less interested in porn), their interests are captured by social media at an equally early age. As more families give their children hand-held devices at younger and younger ages, we are likely to see digital media use becoming a serious problem at younger and younger ages.
One of the things that is most intriguing about the young adults with problematic internet use is the high degree to which their identities are formed by their online activities, especially gaming. When they come for help, this is the thing that is most difficult for them to overcome. Because they’ve invested years of their lives in gaming and enjoy recognition in their game communities, they cannot easily imagine being able to develop the same kind of achievement and community out in the world. For many of them, the friends they’ve made online feel more real to them than any other relationships. This can be another stumbling block in therapy. Many of them lack confidence in themselves socially. Many have never dated, or, if they have, it’s been just hook-up sex rather than real relationships. While their healthier peers were learning how to flirt and date, the Internet addicts were side-tracked by easy online access to porn, using that as an outlet for their sexual drive, often getting hooked on that porn, as well as being hooked on gaming, e-sports, fantasy sports, online poker, online socializing, and other online activities. Whatever the content, excessive computer use can lead to an internet addiction. And, that Internet addiction can get mixed together with other addictive behaviors.
If you or someone you know shows signs of an addiction (Internet or otherwise) know that there is help out there. IITAP has trained hundreds of therapists in the treatment not only of Sex and Love addiction, but other behavioral addictions, as well. These therapists have earned the title of Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSAT) and Certified Multiple Addiction Therapists (CMAT).
Written by: Hilarie Cash, LMHC, CSAT Candidate
It is completely natural to be sexually curious, especially in adolescence. As such, some people may actually recommend viewing Internet porn as a method of self-education or self-expression of their sexuality. But when is it a problem?
So what happens what you stop viewing?
Things may get worse before they get better. Many chronic users initially report “brain fog”, as well as negative moods and feelings (anxious, irritable, depressed). This is because the brain’s reward center needs time to reset itself – called rebooting in the Internet world. In time, however, things get better. Ultimately, people report benefits such as the following: