Am I Ready for Help? 

That may sound silly at first. If I know I have a problem, why wouldn’t I be ready to change it? Think about some other issue you’ve tried to change. When did you first realize it was an issue and when did you actually begin doing something about it (if you have)? Often these timeframes do not match up. Maybe it has mainly been others suggesting that there is a problem. This is when many people end up first seeking help – at the request (or insistence) of those around you who may have been impacted by your sexual behaviors (or have seen the impact on you). While this may start the process, over time you likely will need to decide for yourself where your desire to change comes from.

Fortunately, you don’t have to wait until all of these questions are answered to start getting help! Having mixed emotions about change is an expected part of the process. Even though doing something about the problem may bring a lot of positive changes, it can also be scary and uncomfortable. This doesn’t have to be resolved to begin – you just need to be open to exploring and discussing those thoughts and feelings. If you’re open to this, then there’s a good chance you’re ready to move forward.

Written by: Dr. Greg Futral, PhD, CSAT Supervisor

Finding Help

 

In reaching out for help, you will find you are not alone. Pursuing treatment will reduce the shame you feel and provide you with tools for change. Many sex addicts and their partners say they have been to therapy, but it has not been helpful….until they have begun therapy with a CSAT trained therapist. An IITAP trained CSAT or a treatment center with CSAT staff will help ensure you get the most effective treatment available. Look for a CSAT who offers both individual and group therapy. If you are in a crisis situation, a good next step is to begin treatment at an inpatient treatment center or intensive. After the intensive or inpatient program, you can continue therapy with a CSAT in your area. Books such as Out of the Shadows, Facing the Shadow, and Facing Heartbreak are great resources to get you started.

 

Professional Help

 

Sex Addiction is a delicate issue, at IITAP we have dedicated our lives to creating the most robust tools to help therapists properly diagnose and treat these conditions. We have a training system in place that enables therapists to become certified to use these tools and techniques. Our CSAT trained therapists can help you on your journey.

Online Screening Tools

Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST)

 

The Sexual Addiction Screening Test was developed as a screening tool to assist people in identifying whether their sexual behaviors are cause for concern. It is important when taking the 45 question test, you answer honestly so your results are accurate.  Once you take the assessment, you will be provided a report containing a graph that shows how many of the 20 core items of sexual addiction you indicated.  Anything over six (6) merits further exploration by you and a trained therapist.  We highly recommend you discuss your results, regardless of the findings, with an IITAP trained therapist to ensure you receive the kind of help you may need, whether it is sex addiction treatment or not.

Cost: FREE

It is important to note that this is only a screening tool and cannot provide a definitive diagnosis.  If you wish to keep your results, you will need to print them immediately as the report and associated data are erased when you leave the page.

Partner Sexuality Survey (PSS)

 

If you are a partner or former partner of a sex addict, you may be having feelings of anger, sadness, and betrayal.  The trauma of discovering your partner is a sex addict can have significant impact on your life.  This 78 item survey examines experiences and feelings in 10 areas of your sexuality.  A report is generated after the completion of the survey and indicates how strongly you have been impacted in each of the 10 areas and a list of which items you indicated in each category.  

If the discovery of your partner’s sex addiction is recent, it is strongly recommended you take the assessment in the presence of a therapist or close friend you can talk with.  It is also recommended you seek out help from a qualified, IITAP-trained therapist.

Cost: $6.50

It is important to note that this is only a screening tool and cannot provide a definitive diagnosis.  If you wish to keep your results, you will need to print them immediately as the report and associated data are erased when you leave the page.

All of the Online Screening tools are available at Recoveryzone.com

Sexual Addiction Risk Assessment (SARA)

 

This assessment consists of 70 questions based on the most common behaviors of the Sexual Dependency Inventory (SDI).  It is more comprehensive than the Sexual Addiction Screening Test (SAST-R) and will hopefully help you understand that, if a problem exists, what exactly those problems are and how they present themselves and the possible consequences you are facing or may face if the behaviors continue.  Before you begin, it is recommended you take the SAST-R as you will need to enter their score at the beginning of the test.  

After you complete the SARA, you will be provided a detailed report that provides you with a recommendation for treatment (inpatient, outpatient or combination of both), a life profile that shows certain aspects of your life that match up with characteristics typically seen in sex addiction, behavior scores for the most common behavior categories, your risk analysis, and lastly, recommendations of where to find help.

Cost: $29.95

It is important to note that this is only a screening tool and cannot provide a definitive diagnosis.  If you wish to keep your results, you will need to print them immediately as the report and associated data are erased when you leave the page.

Internet Sex Screening Test (ISST)

 

The ability to use the internet for sexual purposes is increasing daily with online chatrooms, discreet liaisons, pornography sites, fetish cams, etc. This brief survey asks several questions about your online behaviors and your feelings about them.  After you have completed the 53 questions, you are provided a quick report that identifies different resources for help as well as your score.  It is highly recommended you review your results with a qualified therapist sex addiction therapist.  For a list of therapists in your area, please click here to begin your search.

Cost: FREE

It is important to note that this is only a screening tool and cannot provide a definitive diagnosis.  If you wish to keep your results, you will need to print them immediately as the report and associated data are erased when you leave the page.

IITAP Partners

Books and Resources

Realizing you have a problem that you can’t change on your own can be stressful, upsetting, and even devastating. It is common to feel shame associated with your addiction (or your partner’s addiction). The best way to reduce that shame and find hope, healing, and recovery is to reach out for help. Your best next step is to seek help from an IITAP trained therapist who will come alongside and help you embrace recovery.

Gentlepath.com

 

At Gentlepath.com we provide different books and resources to help clinicians as well as addict become more knowledgeable in sex addiction.

Please look through our books and see if any of them speak to you and what you or a loved one are going through.

Finding a Therapist

When you realize that you need help you are making your first step in a long journey and you need a partner that has the experience and training to help you achieve your goals. Our Therapist Directory only lists Sex Addiction professionals with appropriate training and credentials. So when you decide to take that first step they can help you land.